“A toxic person will thank you for dealing with their crap but bash you for walking away for better.”
~Vonya
I knew it was toxic but I just couldn’t leave him alone. I had so much hope in us. Truth be told, there was no us. It was just me. I’d given three years to this man. He pursued me. Heavily. So to say I was confused would be a light tap dance. I’m happy to say I finally got the guts to walk away. One text. He thought I was doing my random pleading with him. However, what he didn’t know is I had finally decided to put myself first.
What makes us stay when we’ve been given red flags? For me, I was NOT about to deal with having my ego bruised again. Horrible. I know. I felt like I was losing yet again. I was failing at another relationship.
Whew Chiiiiiii this is so true!!! Soooooo true!!!! All of it!!! I think I just don’t like to let people down. I take loyalty to a whole new level!!!! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
AND they go on living their toxic life with someone else as if it was nothing.
I read a quote the other day that said something like “I once loved someone who was broken. And he ended up breaking me”. I was like whewww man! Why do we do this??
For me, I think it’s the healer in me. I’m a healer by nature (as many people in the healthcare industry). I tend to hold on, trying to help and fix the person. When I see the underlining issue in someone’s behavior, I excuse the behavior. Which ends up hurting me in the long run...because the person ends up hurting me and I’m left with my heart broken.